Guys, this hit me recently: We are about to say goodbye to a decade.
Ya I know, who could forget that we’re in December and January always means a new year, blah blah. But reflecting on a year is something I always enjoy doing and this is no ordinary year! When I start looking back not only on 2019, but all of the 2010s, so much has happened. Seriously, my life has changed so much, if you took a photo to 2010 me and told myself what I had done (or hadn’t done), I would laugh in your face. No way in hell I was going to be doing this or living that life. Plus, I faced some fears and we all know when you see yourself facing fears that it’s hard to see yourself in the future being positive and successful!
And when it comes to achieving goals? Well, I’ve missed my mark on a lot of those damn things – and not just by a little. Some of them ended up flying out the window and are laying on the side of the road somewhere, a victim of my life in the west. So I wanted to share with you some lessons I personally have learned this decade and how you can reflect on the new year too.
Your Personal Self Reflection
When you’re reflecting on a year, there are some questions to ask yourself. Even if it’s been a trying and hard year, this is a great opportunity to see what the universe was trying to teach you. Each hard moment we have in life isn’t meant to push you down and you stay there – it’s meant for you to slap it in the face and get back up!
Wherever you are in life, you’re meant to grow. And friend, easy times don’t allow for growth. Anything new is hard and scary because you’re a novice. But easy doesn’t mean change. If you’re in any way dissatisfied in a part of your life right now, then do the hard thing and begin your process of change. Nobody said it would be easy, just that it’s worth it! So pull out your journal and let’s do some self reflecting shall we?
Think of your life. Jot down areas like job, finances, motherhood, personal development, nutrition, fitness, etc. Anything that effects your life and pops into your head, jot it down. Now, pick 3 of these sections and let’s go in depth.
Questions to ask yourself
- What are you most proud of in these past 10 years?
- Name one of the biggest obstacles you encountered.
- What are some results you saw in this area of your life?
- How do you want to feel about this area of your life this time next year?
- Set goals today to reach these changes.
- Why do I want these goals/changes?
- List any limiting beliefs you have on why you can’t make these goals/changes.
- How does my life look when I reach these goals/changes?
- Be as specific as possible with this one. What do you wear, how is your skin, how do you feel, what food do you eat, is something different about your beautiful body, etc? You don’t have to answer all of these, but I want you to actually SEE yourself.
Take a look at number 7.
Do you see yourself holding onto the unnecessary baggage in your life right now? Or in years past? Is there something holding you back? Limiting beliefs are just that if we allow them to. Are people telling you it’s already done? That it’s too hard? You can’t ____? You’re too old/young? Well guess what friend, I’m here to help you tell those people or that voice to f**k off.
You are capable of so much more than you know or what others have planned for you.
My entire life my head has been in the clouds. Hey – I wanted to be an astronaut in kindergarten so it makes sense. I’m a pretty open minded person and like to see all sides of something, but whenever someone tries to “be practical” or “give me some tough love”, friend, all I can think of is how this person must be missing so much in their life. Because nothing I’m dreaming of hasn’t been done before. You know what of these things hasn’t been done?
They haven’t been done by me.
And I want you to remember this and remember it good. Your creator, be it God or the universe, knew we needed you. Yes you, person I may never meet face to face. You know the butterfly effect? Well, somewhere you are doing things that are effecting me, be it the weather, your energy, or the work you’re about to do that can effect me, my friends, or my family.
Lessons from 2010
- Decades go fast
- Looking back on this decade, SO many great things have happened & I encountered trying times. I think I did more this decade than the other two combined! Which I never thought I’d say in adulthood as I was a busy bee throughout school.
- That anxiety can rear it’s ugly head – but now I acknowledge it
- I never thought of myself as one with anxiety. Looking back into my school days, yup, had it then. But coming into motherhood meant I was stretched in so many more ways, that it was able to bubble up & bring me down. You know something crazy? I look back and pinpoint when it started but back then I ignored it which made it worse. Now, I acknowledge it and realize I need to start making changes so it doesn’t get that bad again.
- Missing your mark isn’t a bad thing
- Things I had planned to do before the age of 30: have my doctorate, live in Italy, speak another language, be free to travel where I damn well pleased, work on a military base, settle down in Wisconsin. A coupe of these are laughable now because I sure as hell don’t want them or the life associated with them.
- There is so much freaking potential
- I never allowed myself to have the dreams I have today. Secretly, I was holding myself back to goals I felt I could accomplish. Well, screw that friend! “Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you’ll land among the stars.” – Norman Vincent Peale
- Being vulnerable doesn’t make you weak
- Putting a game face on 24/7 doesn’t make you the toughest one in the arena. Showing your emotions make you a real and relatable human, so your connections to others is that much stronger. Then, when you need support, you’ve got close connections.
Happy New Year Friend! What lessons has 2019 brought to you? What is lighting your heart on fire for 2020? xo
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